"Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." -Bob Marley

I Happened to be at a spiritual workshop last week, so I thought of writing my mind on the most amazing quote that was a part of the Workshop..!

So, the question is.... how do you know when someone is worth keeping around? Talk about a difficult question! I am a firm believer that people come into your life for a reason. I believe that each person that you meet... each person that you interact with... they all leave some sort of wake in your life. Whether it be a gentle wave crashing in on the sands of your life or a thunderous storm knocking down everything in its path. The decision as to how long they remain in your life, well, thats another question.

Pain is OBVIOUSLY a part of life. There is no way around it. You will hurt people. People will hurt you. It's going to happen. The only thing that we can do in life is try our very best to not hurt others. But what do you do when there is someone in your life that you care for, who does mean a lot to you but you are continually hurt by this person? Is it purposeful? Maybe, maybe not. Either way, how do you decide if the the good times are worth the heartache? How do you know if and when it is time to say enough?

This is something that I think everyone struggles with at one point or another. It can be fairly easy to say goodbye to someone who hasn't been in your life that long. But, when it comes to a person that you have a history with; a person that you have a strong connection with (whether it be a friend, a family member, or a person you were in a relationship with)... what is the deciding factor in your mind that makes you think, "Thats it. I have had enough." This is something, that unfortunately, has been on my mind quite a bit over the past few months. There are a few people that I seriously have so much love for, but no matter which way the wind blows, there is always something hurtful coming out of their mouths. And, as painful as it has been, I have severed ties with these people for the time being. Do I miss them? Of course I do. But, at the same time, I know that my heart is much safer with it this way for now.

Yes, at some point in life I will hurt the people I love. Yes, the people I love, at some point or another will hurt me. Its a part of life. All I can do is hold faith in my heart that I those around me are honest and loving in their intentions.

"Love comes from a sure heart,a good conscience and a sincere faith"
1 Timothy 1:5

What Started Me Thinking!

"The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up." Mark Twain

“There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson

"Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42

“Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil

“What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette

“It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton

“A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison

“Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald

“Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have!!

This incident happened to me when I was in Chennai @ a doctors clinic and this changed the way I entierly look at life...
It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80s arrived to have stitches removed from a wound.He said he was in a hurry, as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.Since I was not busy ,waiting for my turn to meet the doctor I started talking to him.I had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would be able to see him.I saw him looking at his watch, and decided, and told him that he could take my turn and go in and meet the doctor as he seemed to be in a hurry.

On the doctor's exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor’s appointment that morning, as he was in such a hurry.
The gentleman told me no, but he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.I inquired about her health; he told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer’s Disease.As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.

He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.I was surprised, and asked him,

“And you still go every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?”
He smiled as he patted my hand and said, ”She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.”
I had to hold back tears as he left. I had goose bumps on my arms and thought, “That is the kind of love I want in my life.”

Its been five years that this incident had taken place, yesterday the gentleman called me up to inform me that his wife had passed away 3 days back without recognizing him for 10 long years, and the only thing he had left to say is "I Just loved her the way she was!!!"

"True love is neither physical nor romantic.
True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be."

The Voice of the Heart

A take diversion signboard cannot stop the journey. When you look beyond, ends become bends. Potholes and speedbreakers can slow down the journey, but do not have the power to stop the journey. I wasnt able to write anything for sometime now, cause my mind was full of questions that needed alot of matured answers. I had to meet a lot of different people, give myself alot of time alone, make myself feel happy and people around me so that I could write this and understand what I actually wanted to write.

The world can stop you temporarily. The only one who can stop you permenantely is yourself. Stop not. Temperorary setbacks should never alter permanent focus. You may trip. You may even fall. But you will not stay fallen. Let life put you down seven times, you will and must rise eight times. Getting up one more time is what will power all about. Keep going.

You are just one evening away from greatness. You may not know which evening, but your time will come. All those who laughed at you would look upto you one day. All those who did'nt accept you will admire you one day. Dont be bothered about what the world thinks of you. It is not their opinion that counts. It is your opnion of yourself that really counts. In the end what really matters is what you think of yourself. Even if nobody beleives in you, your ideas, if you beleive in yourself, then the destination is yours.

It is not the end till you accept it to be the end. Do not let others to define the end. You define the end. You will define the end on your terms. It is over only when you beleive it is over. Even if life hands you over a period (.) , you make a comma (,) out of it and continue the script, its something like having the most important thing in life without owning it. The question is'snt, will you reach? The question is only, by when will you reach?

Let the script of your life be titled, "Here is a man, whom even god never tried to stop" Be unstoppable, fall not, move on, Keep going........

These learnings above were only possible after few souls left a footprint in my heart. Above all the footprint of the almighty in your life makes you confident and ready for the unexpected.....untill next time Happy Blogging.....

Heart Touching Lines….

I read these lines some time ago. These are not written by me but some how I couldn’t stop myself from posting them here. Some things which are mentioned here are just so true and if you have loved someone and has got pain in reward of that, you will be agree with me.  Have a read:

Could you be the one for me?
Could you be my find?
Could it be, after all this time,
Fate is going to be kind?
Could you be the one for me,
The one to help me forget
The gal that broke my heart, my soul
The gal that haunts me yet?
You tell me that I’m nice
Something I’ve never heard
But the one still lives here in my mind
That couldn’t spare a kind word
It’s going to be hard to forget
And pick up the pieces she left
Could you be the one to teach
How to love again and forget?
Could you be the one to come
And mend my broken heart?
Are you willing to piece together
What another broke apart?
It won’t be an easy job, you see
My road has been long and rough
And the heart that was once so soft
Is now shut, locked, and tough
But I can feel my heart open again
It’s opening for you
Just come in, and love me back
That’s all you have to do
I must ask you one small thing
Before we kiss and part
Please be nice and kind to me
I’m tired of broken hearts


Some where the poet says that heart of his, which was just so soft and kind some time ago, thanks to that person who broke it, now it is no more that soft.  Now it is no more that soft.  Now its just locked and it has become so much tough.  People who break hearts, people who leave their loved ones for their own gains, selfishness, people who back off on the path of love, they never understand the true meanings of love and loving some one.  Its very easy to break a heart.  What is tough is to be with some one!Its very easy to be selfish and do things just for your own good and for your own benefit.  Its so tough to do  something for others.  Its so much tough to do some thing for some one.  But there are some selfish and cold hearted people in this world too who don’t understand the pain of others, who just have complaints but not few words of appreciation, who just call that person stupid who has done something for them.


Is that person really stupid who went through all that pain for his loved one or is that person is so much stupid who gave away everything for the sake of love?If you are among those who never bothers that someone is doing some thing you, if you say to him/her that what ever he/she has done, it was just his/her wish, you never asked him to do that for you and it was just him who was stupid enough to do all that much for you, if you are among those who say to their loved ones when they are crying with the pain given by you that you don’t have time for their tears and some one’s tears doesn’t mean anything for you coz you have your own problems and that “some one” is no one else but that person who loved you from the bottom of his heart than just remember this, you never will know how much damage you have done!  You have not just broken the heart of some one but also you have killed that very feeling, you have broken that trust that was there some time ago on  love in the heart of that person.  You must know this that its not so easy to be in love and those who are just selfish and come up with explanations supporting their selfishness only , they cant love some one.  Those who give pain and tears to others, they can’t understand what is love and how to love some one.  Those who know just about their own benefits, they are just playing with the feelings of others.  Why do people do like that?When you know you cant give happiness to some one , who has given you the right to give pain to him?When you can’t take some one tears from their eyes who authorized you give the same tears to the other person? But its not some thing about which answer can be given because this world is filled with the people like these only who do everything for just their own benefit and than come and try to prove their act right with the reasons supporting them. True love and true and devoted lovers are just now sleeping in the books only.People of today just know how to say that I have to leave you and be selfish for myself as this is the best for me to do. Is it right or is it wrong you want to know? I dont have the answer as I myself is trying to find the answer for the same puzzle. If you know the answer than let me know too, that’s all I can say.

Happiness is....a journey,not a destination

Happiness is…taking in all the wonders of life; its joys, its sorrows, its sunshine and the beautiful rainbow that follows the rain. Happiness involves learning from each enriching experience life throws your way. It also encourages you to share these experiences and your ever-increasing wisdom with those close to your heart as happiness is made to be shared. But a bar of chocolate does sometimes hit the spot too!


I was discussing "feelings" with a friend lately over a Coffee and we were talking about how great a feeling happiness is. I’m sure the feeling varies from person to person, but for me, when I feel happy, the feeling really does come from somewhere inside my stomach region. Sadness and anxiety usually manifest themselves in the same region at the appropriate times but obviously, the happiness feeling is easier to embrace. It’s glorious and as corny as it sounds, all I want to do is share that feeling with the people around me. It’s a bit like the feeling you get when you’re in love…it feels like lightning coursing through your veins and you feel truly alive. Although happiness, like waves at sea, comes and goes during our lifetimes, and naturally varies in its intensity, when we experience it, it’s essential to enjoy that feeling in the moment without worrying about losing it or holding on to it.


The everyday philosophy of life is fascinating and fortunately, most people have various opinions and advice to offer in terms of the most commonly discussed topics such as the meaning of happiness. I remember striking up a conversation with a Friend at a café. We somehow bypassed the usual small talk that strangers often dwell on and proceeded immediately to have a heart-to-heart on the subject of happiness.  This man’s definition of happiness, although not entirely different from the various definitions construed by the rest of us mere mortals, has always stayed with me.In this man’s view happiness is a gift which we must give ourselves. It is a gift which costs nothing and it cannot be given to us by another as happiness comes from within. Once we bestow this gift upon ourselves, it stays with us forever—we may not always feel it or appreciate it but this precious gift remains close to the soul, the very essence of our being.

Intrigued, I felt compelled to ask some questions. ‘Dude, knowing the origins of happiness and where it can be found, can you explain to me what happiness is?’ ‘Yes’, he replied. First he explained, it is important to know what happiness is not. It does not come in the form of material things such as money, cars, clothes or anything else you can touch. Nor does happiness present itself as another person. Although happiness is made to be shared, only you can create it. Happiness manifests itself as a feeling or a state of being. You create happiness when your mind, body and soul are connected and when you, as a whole, are at one with the external world around you.

The next obvious question which he answered refers to how we achieve this inner peace and ‘oneness’  with the world and the people around us. To put it simply, in order to be at peace with yourself, you must be true to yourself. Being ‘true to yourself’ involves loving yourself and believing in your abilities and your dreams. It also necessitates that by believing in your dreams, you must make them a reality by following the emblazoned path you’re meant to forge for yourself in your lifetime. When you live the life your dreams and destiny implore you to live, then you are fulfilled and at peace with yourself. When you are at peace with yourself, this has a natural ripple effect and you are then at peace with everybody around you.Therefore, when a person is unhappy, either they haven’t yet begun to pursue their dreams or they have started to do so but they have encountered some difficulties along the way. The path of life is littered with challenges but although life’s twists and turns may sometimes seem physically and emotionally impassable, it’s when things seem hardest that you must persevere. As long as you remain true to yourself and your dreams, happiness will never elude you.

As my family and friends know, if my head wasn’t physically attached to my body, I’d have lost it long ago, alongside, socks [seriously, there has to be a sock vortex in every washing machine] and various other worldly possessions. Fortunately, once you’ve experienced happiness, you can never lose it. Sometimes, you just have to be patient and have faith in yourself. This l have learnt alongside from all the faliures and rejections that I had in my life which later became a stepping stone for my success!

‘Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony’
-Mahatma Gandhi

Change! a boon or a test!!

I went to a party Mom,
I remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom,
So I drank soda instead.
I really felt proud inside, Mom,
The way you said I would.
I didn't drink and drive, Mom,
Even though the others said I should.
I know I did the right thing, Mom,
I know you are always right.
Now the party is finally ending, Mom,
As everyone is driving out of sight.
As I got into my car, Mom,
I knew I'd get home in one piece.
Because of the way you raised me,
So responsible and sweet..
I started to drive away, Mom,
But as I pulled out into the road,
The other car didn't see me, Mom,
And hit me like a load.
As I lay there on the pavement, Mom,
I hear the policeman say,
"The other guy is drunk," Mom,
And now I'm the one who will pay.
I'm lying here dying, Mom....
I wish you'd get here soon.
How could this happen to me, Mom?
My life just burst like a balloon..
There is blood all around me, Mom,
And most of it is mine.
I hear the medic say, Mom,
I'll die in a short time.
I just wanted to tell you, Mom,
I swear I didn't drink.
It was the others, Mom.
The others didn't think.
He was probably at the same party as I.
The only difference is, he drank
And I will die.
Why do people drink, Mom?
It can ruin your whole life.
I'm feeling sharp pains now.
Pains just like a knife.
The guy who hit me is walking, Mom,
And I don't think it's fair.
I'm lying here dying
And all he can do is stare.
Tell my brother not to cry, Mom.
Tell Daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven, Mom,
Put "GOOD BOY " on my grave.
Someone should have told him, Mom,
Not to drink and drive.
If only they had told him, Mom,
I would still be alive.
My breath is getting shorter, Mom.
I'm becoming very scared.
Please don't cry for me, Mom.
When I needed you, you were always there.
I have one last question, Mom.
Before I say good bye.
I didn't drink and drive,
So why am I the one to die!!